Now this is one thing I have really being guilty of, FORGIVENESS.. Even when I act like I have, I know deep down inside my heart there's this bitterness and anger pitching its tent right in my heart, I had So many things I was holding onto. So recently, I got to a point where I got tired of holding onto these things, I finally decided to let go of all the hurts, hate, anger and all and I also noticed writing about it too made it quite easier. We've all been hurt severally, deeply. Some where really really devastating I know. Could be a lover, a friend, a relation, it could really be anyone, you could decide to hold onto the anger, resentments or embrace forgiveness. Its a choice.
Its important we learn to let go too, holding onto hurts and grudges leads to depression. You remember does moments when you're in a serious malice and you don't talk to the person for a period of time, don't forget how those period were for you, how your heart skips and your tummy turns upside down and your mind is raging with so much hate. You try not to laugh even when the person gives a funny joke, you don't even allow your skin brush when you have to pass a space together. Now well, think of how you felt when you finally made up with that person, I'm sure you felt like 'jeez. Thank God this is finally over' and you feel like a baggage was lifted of your neck, you finally appreciate what it means to have fresh air and you even forget those malicious days. That's what forgiveness and letting go feels like. When you dont forgive, you might pay the price repeatedly by bringing anger and bitterness into every relationship and new experience. Your life might become so wrapped up in the wrong that you can't enjoy the present. You might become depressed or anxious. You might feel that your life lacks meaning or purpose, or that you're at odds with your spiritual beliefs. You might lose valuable and enriching connectedness with others.
Someone will say 'she doesn't understand, she doesn't know'. Sweetheart, I know, I really know. Forgive that man, you just have to forgive him, you can't afford to miss Gods plan for you because of him. Ok he messed you up after when you thought you've finally found love, forgive him, he raised his hands on you, forgive him, he called you desperate because he knew you were scared of losing him(this sounds familiar, lol), honey, forgive him, he raised your hopes about the future and he suddenly busted your bubbles, let it go, he reminded you of the past you never want to remember, forgive him, he raped you, I know how you could be hurting, let God heal you, forgive him, let it go. Forgive your mother, I'm sure she loves you more than anything, forgive your father, forgive your brother, your sister, forgive that friend that said all those terrible things about you, forgive that girl, she's not worth the pain, let it go. Move away from the role as a victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life
As you let go of grudges, you'll no longer define your life by how you've been hurt. You'll even find unspeakable joy and freedom.
You can start by making a list of people who have hurt you in several ways, talk to God about it, allow him help you to forgive and let go. Better still you can also write about it like I've just done too trust me it helps...... Colossians 3:13
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you(NIV)... Love ya
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